Good morning everyone – hope you are all well and happy!
“Spring has sprung
The Grass is riz”
Let’s hope the lovely weather lasts – don’t know about you, but spring is my favourite time of year and always makes me feel so much better about everything!
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Many, many thanks to those of you who read last week’s Ramble and answered the questions about yourselves – I really appreciated it and was surprised by some of the answers so perhaps it is true that you discover things about people you would never otherwise know! Also touched by a spectacular piece of honesty from one of you (you know who you are) which will go no further!
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I am deeply fortunate in having some nephews, nieces, their other halves and their offspring in my life – all so different and yet all so special.
Yesterday the Main Man and I were invited to lunch with the eldest nephew and his much loved wife (J and J) as the second eldest was visiting with his lovely wife (M and A) for the weekend. We rarely get to see them, as they live in Cornwall and so the opportunity was too good to miss!
What a good time we had – nothing like family catch-ups. What were all the children doing? (Special congratulations to B who has secured a much wanted job ready to start after he leaves University in the summer!) Who had seen who, who had been where – all the minutia that makes up the weft and weave of family life. How I love those two boys! (Grown men, one turned 50 and one fast approaching it! I still think of them as boys and worry a lot about what happens in their lives.)
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Now when, in your opinion, does a child become an adult? Legally it would seem to be 18 – but it seems to me that there are lots of different ideas out there!
Firstly – Shamima Begum – aged 19. In a nutshell – left England for Syria, aged 15 using her sister’s passport, married an Isis fighter, had two children in quick succession, sadly children died, husband captured and now in prison, she is in a camp waiting to come back to England.
There seems to be a huge drive in all sections of the media to prevent her returning with her baby to this country and I can understand why. However, when she left here, she was a child having what she was sure would be a great adventure and, by her own admission, has no regrets.
While I think she would have to be in some form of custody for a long time, to ensure that she is not a danger to the public, I do feel this custody should be in her own country – here, where she was born. I also feel her child should be brought up in safety in this country and possibly even adopted, so that he is not raised to think being an Isis fighter is a glamorous and good thing to be! Presumably the issue of her husband has to be considered too – I don’t know enough about the law to know if he can apply to come here on the grounds his wife and son are here.
I heard her initial interview on the BBC – no regrets, no apologies, thought the Manchester bombing was a sort of quid pro quo for Syria being bombed. She did herself no favours! However she is 19 now – so technically an adult and possibly clever enough to know that her words would be heard by the remaining Isis members who would have no hesitation in killing her if she had said anything different. Context is everything!
Secondly – Aaron Campbell Aged 16 – found guilty of abduction, rape and murder of six year old Alesha. Technically a child but found guilty of this most awful crime. What should happen to him – he has already been told he will probably never be released, and there are already cries for him to be hanged!
Sixteen – a child– and I wonder what made him act like this? We’ll never know but possibly lack of parenting or exposure to porn on the web or some other outside influences which can change a child just as surely as Shamima was radicalised.
This week, as in most weeks, on Facebook there was a 13 year old girl allegedly missing from home and would everyone look out for her as her mother was distraught. The accompanying photograph showed her in full make-up dressed in a low cut, ultra short mini-dress, looking like someone in her twenties on the pull! She was, of course, not missing at all but had spent the night with her boyfriend! Sorry, she’s 13 – and by any standard that is a child. She spent the night with her boyfriend? Presumably he has a parent or two and no-one thought to check with the girl’s mother but just allowed her to stay!
Sometimes I feel the world is running out of control!
In my ideal world, I’d like children to encompass everyone aged under 18 and people from 18-21 to be young adults, with some rights and responsibilities but still not adults. 21 – Adulthood dawns!
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On a similar line, I was irritated about the children playing truant to protest about climate change. Had they waited a week and used a day of their half term, that would have made much more impact than the sneaking feeling that a day off school and an opportunity to shout at everyone who passed was too good to miss!
It was not a Strike – it was truancy. I do not doubt the sincerity of some of them and do not doubt that some of them had done their homework and childhood is, after all, a time for idealism, but they chose to ignore the dire effects of pollution in places like China and the fact that the USA do not now recognise there is a problem, and instead decided to shout at this small country which has done and is doing so much to reduce this.
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Did you know that Havant has been trying to launch itself as a Dementia Friendly Town? No, neither did I so I fetched up at the launch last week – what a dismal failure that was for something that is meant to be town-wide! No local shops were represented, one business (a care agency), one local Solicitors and a couple of Dementia Associations and that was it. Long way to go yet Havant!
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I love the English language in all its richness and variety. I read a lot, and am always interested if I read or hear a word with which I am unfamiliar. I know that the meanings of words change over time, sometimes very quickly, but it is unrealistic to expect that everyone will know of a change at the same time. It took me a while to get used to the change in the use of ‘wicked’ and am still a bit stuck on ‘sick’. Gay now has one accepted meaning and if you use the word in its original sense you are in dire trouble!
In the local paper, I was astonished to read, in the context of Prince Charles being the heir to the throne, that he would be “coronated”. I was also surprised to hear a girl, obviously trying to impress an interviewer on television, say that she didn’t really know the young man in question but she had ‘conversated’ with him!
I’ve just read a book called ‘Have you eaten Grandma?’ by Gyles Brandreth and what a joy to read if you love language. A complete guide to the importance of correct punctuation, with some wonderful examples of incorrect use (as it the book title); the importance of grammar, which sounds totally boring but is written with wit and a great deal of background knowledge. There is also a good section on the difference between American English and English English (if you see what I mean) and I admit these can sometimes be confusing. I heard on the radio yesterday a man talking about what it felt like to be in earthquake and missed some of it while trying to think what he meant by ‘the hutch in the family room fell over’ – home for a rabbit/guinea pig? Still don’t know although I could google it I suppose but I much prefer to look things up in a book!
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Sorry this has gone on a bit this week – funny how sometimes I have a lot to say and other, almost nothing!
I hope you all enjoy the rest of this lovely day and have a good week. Stay well and happy.
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